But first I want to start of by laughing at myself, as I realized late last night that I tend to describe men and dating, by using the analogy of a passenger in a car, a lot. I was on the on the phone with an old girlfriend who's ex boyfriend recently gave her the speech of "I just don't want to be in a relationship right now," blah blah, my god! I've known four girls who were all given the same speech lately - myself included! Are the moons out of order these days? Seriously men, I ask you - why do you even bother getting involved with all of us awesome gals, if you know in the first place what path you are currently on and that that doesn't involve a a girl? Please, spare us next time. Anyways...so I was talking to my friend and she was questioning me of whether or not she should ask this guy out from her work etc, and I said "of course - go for it!" Now I personally have only ever asked one guy out, but I do think it's 2008 and maybe that should happen more often.
Half the time I think men are just scared to approach us for fear of whatever, and so they chicken out on getting a number or striking up a convo. I know that is the case. And for shits and giggles if you are ever super bored go on Craiglist to the "missed connection" section, I get such a kick out of men trying to find the lady they chickened out with earlier in the week, over an Internet plea. It's quite humorous.
So back to my analogy of men in cars. My friend was telling me how she wants to ask this guy out but can't get her ex out of her head, still thinks about him all the time, etc etc. I was telling her that she needs to get him out of the back seat of her car and push him to the trunk, and eventually out the door. She laughed as I said this and asked "huh?" But here is my theory:
When you are a single gal, you are in the car alone, grooving to your music, thinking out loud or to yourself - doing your daily routine. You are enjoying your alone time. When you start to date someone or get involved in a relationship the guy ends up in your passenger seat. You should still be driving ;) He usually stays in the passenger seat for some time. For some of us weeks, others - months, and the good ones - years. Of course you may get into an accident every now and then or let him drive from time to time, but at the end of the day he's in your passenger seat and you two are enjoying the ride.
Now, when things get rocky or you take a break or you break up, he is automatically pushed to the backseat. He stays in the backseat, as you two think about what you want. You are in the phase of moving on etc, but he is still in your head. If you think about him, want him still, miss him, hang out or talk occasionally, while dating other guys casually...if he's still in your mind, whether all the time or once in a awhile...he's still in the damn backseat. He does not move from the backseat, until you start dating another guy who you realize, "wow maybe there are other men out there, and I was crazy for being so into so and so." When you start to get butterflies to hang out with new guy, see him a couple times a week or just find yourself looking forward to the next phone call, your old guy is immediately locked in the trunk, while new guy hops into the passenger seat for a fun ride. Why is it that the ride always starts off so fun, fine and dandy?
So you slowly become all into new guy, while still playing it cool for fear of him realizing too soon you actually do dig him, and sooner or later you realize you have feelings for him. THIS LADIES, is when (in my opinion) old guy is kicked out of car for good, and new guy continues to comfortably sit in the passenger seat. You go for a new ride, listen to new music, have new adventures, travel new roads, new trips, new paths, new car ride convo's. You stop at a redlight and take a moment to yourself to smile on the inside and remember that happy place again; and that you are in it once again. You look back at the past and realize every guy you date is like a road trip. When the trip ends, he's no longer in the car.
Well, this is seriously the half tipsy talk I gave my friend last night and it made sense to her. We all have to remember that life can be a joy ride if we let it be. There might be fender benders and accidents along the way, but all in all it's our journey to ride through. And when that big day comes where you walk down the isle, as we've all dreamed of since we were 5 years old, you realize THEN that you are about to embark on the best trip yet. To me, that trip should be everlasting.
SO, on that note...back to my top 5 Men In The Spotlight list. I want a date with these boys!
1) Philip Rivers, QB of the San Diego Chargers. Hot, funny, sweet, on my hometown team, and most of all I'm such a sucker for Football players! For the first time I'm on a Fantasy Football team this year, and while I've been getting really into the games, I have to admit my true fantasy is really ending up with a hot football player!
2) Peyton Manning. QB of the Indianapolis, Colts. Love him. And most of all love that he has a brother for my best friend, so we can both get married, become rich housewives and sister in laws!
3)John Mayer. Now I NEVER thought John Mayer was sexy, and for the longest time I questioned how he could get such lovelies like Jessica Simpson and Jennifer Aniston. He used to come across as cold to me. But I saw him on a television interview the other day, and he seemed like such a down to earth sexy guy! I try so hard to stay away from ever dating anyone in the music industry, but I think I'd be okay with Mr. Mayer.
4) Mario Lopez. Loved him since Saved by the Bell and also love a little Latin from time to time. Not to mention - those abs! And he is from SD and even went to my Alma Matter! Watch out Karina! Plus, doesn't he just have a "bring home to mom smile?"
5) Adrian from Entourage. Such a cutie, those eyes, need I say more.
6) Billy Ray Syrus...okay that's 6. I know he's Miley's Dad but I seriously think he's sexy! And a Southern Gent.Just one night with him will suffice. :)
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